Saturday, July 17, 2021

Pheaturing Dave Bidini And Dave Clark From Rheostatics

 

Hey, kids, welcome to the Phile for a Saturday. How are you? New drafts for Emojis have been unveiled in honor of World Emoji Day, but two images designed to represent pregnant men and pregnant non-binary people sparked mixed reactions across Twitter. While approval of the final versions of the new emoji drafts won't be completed until September, iPhone users could see the pregnant man along with the release of "melting face," some coral, a disco ball and "person in crown." Check them out...

To some genuinely confused people, the pregnant man and pregnant non-binary person are meant to represent transgender men and other members of the LGBTQ community as many men can and have given birth. To people who fully understand how a man could get pregnant, but are choosing to use your disdain for a little emoji to fuel hate, perhaps ask yourself why emoji representation is your chosen hill to die on. 

The pandemic left many of us locked indoors for months on end, only stepping out for necessities like food, jobs, and walks for air. For many people, the lack of outside socializing changed their "getting ready" game altogether. After all, if you're not leaving the house all day, why bother coiffing your hair and putting on a whole outfit? Who needs pants or tinted moisturizer when you have the glorious abyss of not being perceived? Well, the actress Helen Mirren has a different take on it all. During a recent interview with People, Mirren shared that she stayed photo-ready all through lockdown, even though she was largely confined to her home. Mirren shared that during the height of lockdown, she still wore makeup daily, and it definitely wasn't for her husband. "Every day, I put on makeup. I didn't do it for [husband] Taylor because Taylor never notices. He asks if I've got makeup on or not and doesn't really care, but he certainly doesn't notice." She went on to joke that her husband Taylor would often notice the effort of makeup without making the connection it was makeup. "He'll sometimes say in a rather puzzled way, 'Oh, you look really nice. You just associate the fact that I look nice with the fact I've just spent an hour doing my makeup!” She went on to explain that continuing to put on makeup every day, despite having nowhere to go, was a source of joy and normalcy for her. "I would put my makeup on every day and get dressed every day because I enjoy it. I appreciate the craft of couture. I'm a girl, I love, love dressing up,” she added. “And then I'm perfectly happy to give it all away at the end of the night and go back to my scruffy, Bohemian outfits." After over a year indoors, Mirren said she loved returning to the red carpet for the recent F9 premiere. "Having spent a year and a half sort of behind closed doors, I've forgotten what this was like. It was such fun," she said. 

Admitting you've done wrong in the past is an essential part of growing and becoming a better person, but that doesn't mean it's not difficult. Fessing up to your past mistakes can be a massively humbling experience, particularly when you're a public figure with a lot of eyes on you. But where there's potential to feel mortified, there's also the opportunity to feel catharsis and inspire others to reflect on themselves. The pastor of 20 years Bryce Brewer did just this in a recent Facebook post, where he admitted he's helped propagate a toxic culture around young girl's bodies. In his post, he wrote about how forcing young girls to adhere to strict dress codes and wear one-pieces in order to stay "modest" he made their bodies a target of shame, instead of putting the emphasis on boys (and really everyone) to not automatically sexualize women and girls. He set forth a string of apologies to the women and girls in his churches, and expressed empathy for how difficult it must have been for them to hear men discuss the immorality of their bodies. He ended his post by stating that he's still a fan of the rule that private parts should be safely concealed, but stomachs, cleavage, legs, and shoulders shouldn't be subject to scrutiny and shame. He also apologized for not teaching the boys how to avert their gaze and act in more responsible and respectful ways. He ended his post by encouraging girls to wear whatever makes them happy, and implored male youth pastors to change the culture moving forward. It wasn't long before Brewer's post went viral, garnering lots of comments grateful for his honesty. Hopefully this helps inspire more church leaders to reflect and change their tune when it comes to how young girls are treated. 

Not all heroes wear capes, some wear delivery uniforms. A recent TikTok went viral after a woman left a note asking an Amazon delivery driver to kill a gigantic spider outside her door, and he actually went for it. When Gwen Sanchez realized the huge spider living outside her door wasn't going to leave on its own accord, she took a gamble and politely asked the delivery driver if he could do the job. In her video taken through the doorbell cam, the Internet got a taste for just how big the spider was as it scuttled across the door. Luckily for Sanchez, her delivery driver didn't hesitate to finish off the spider for her. In the video, he can be seen surveying the entryway before taking off his show to kill the eight-legged creature. Sanchez captioned the viral video by asking viewers to help her find the delivery driver so she could thank him (hopefully with a tip). People were quick to comment with accolades for the delivery driver. "TOOK OFF THE WHOLE SHOE. A real one," one commenter wrote. "He puts the ‘prime’ in Amazon Prime," another commenter wrote. "Hero’s live amongst us," another person surmised. While many praised the driver, others were distracted by the sheer size of the spider. "WHERE DO YOU LIVE WITH SPIDERS THAT SIZE. I NEED TO AVOID EVER GOING THERE," one person wrote. "That was not a spider. That was a demon from the underworld and I would have burned the whole house down," one person quipped. Major cheers to that brave Amazon delivery driver, hopefully he receives karmic rewards for his good deed. 

Robert Downey Jr. is the face of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, there's no doubt about it but following the actor's final appearance in the franchise in Avengers: Endgame, it seems like RDJ no longer wants anything to do with the world of Marvel as he ushers in the next chapter in his storied Hollywood career. Currently, Downey has ventured into the world of producing via his Netflix series "Sweet Tooth." He is also set to make his acting return in an upcoming HBO Max show. The entire Marvel fandom was left heartbroken earlier this month after learning that RDJ unfollowed his Avengers castmates on Instagram. The Iron Man actor is obviously trying to distance himself from the Marvel spotlight especially now that he's taking on other projects outside of the Marvel Cinematic Universe bubble. According to reports, Downey's manager might have been the one responsible for the now-controversial unfollow spree but that still hasn't been confirmed. Apparently, RDJ is no longer following his co-stars on Twitter as well and the reason behind it continues to baffle a lot of people. It's worth noting though that Robert's follow list on both Twitter and Instagram has been reduced to zero, meaning he's not following any account on his social media platforms. Fans have been bombarding Downey's social media accounts demanding an explanation from the MCU patriarch but I don't think he'll ever address the issue not unless he feels the need to finally speak up about it. I'm pretty sure he's still in contact with some of his Marvel buddies, especially the original six Avengers and him unfollowing them on social media shouldn't be taken too seriously.

Okay, so, it's a hot summer, right? You might want to get this to help cool you down...


Fifteen minutes if fun! Hahaha. You heard of the Rock, right? Well, have you heard of Dwayne "The Croc" Johnson? No? Here he is...


Hahahahahahahahaha. Any stroll through a store would have you believe that "pink is for girls" and "blue is for boys" are the associated gender roles are the very backbone of our society. Products from nail clippers to hand lotion are assigned genders when last time I checked, inanimate objects don't have gender identities. Like these toys for example...

If you're looking for a graphic design job, you may want to contact whoever employed the people responsible for the following design fail. They are most likely hiring.

We don't get to pick who our siblings marry, and sometimes this can be truly treacherous. Watching a family member you love deal with a spouse you find irritating or straight-up awful can be painful and exhausting, particularly when you know your sibling doesn't wanna hear it from you. It can be difficult finding ways to honor your values and honesty without making your family member's relationship harder. One teen emailed the Phile if she was wrong for calling out her brother-in-law, despite her sister's disapproval. 

"Am I wrong for calling my sister's husband useless? My sister called me saying that her work had an emergency and she needs to get there ASAP and needed me to watch her kids because 'no one else can.' I rushed over there just to find her husband locked in his game room playing video games. I asked her why she called me over if he was home and she said he didn’t want to 'babysit' because it was his only day off. Sister left, and I started hanging with the kids. I was changing the baby’s diaper and the other kids wanted a snack, I told them to go ask their dad to make them a snack since the baby had a blow out and it was going to take me awhile to clean him up. Well, their dad sent them back upstairs and told them to ask me again. After cleaning the baby up I made the kids a snack and their dad came out to eat and told me not to let the kids interrupt him on his day off. (By the way, he works part-time from home, 6 days a week). I kind of snapped at him and told him it was MY day off too and that he’s a useless fucking father and husband if his wife has to rely on her teenage sister rather than her own husband. He started telling me I was disrespectful and didn’t understand how hard parenting is, and I told him he clearly doesn’t understand how hard it is either since he considers parenting his own children 'babysitting.' He ended up kicking me out and apparently my sister was forced to come home because he told her she needed to figure it out since I’m her sister. I feel like I may be wrong because my sister is mad at me, her husband is mad at me, my mom is mad at me for causing drama, but my dad thinks it’s funny and agrees with me. I definitely didn’t need to call him names but I just hate this guy so much. We have argued about things in the past as well so we already don’t have a great relationship. My sister is saying I need to apologize to him and he is threatening to never let me into the kids' lives if I keep disrespecting him. I think you were right and your sister needs a reality check about the marriage. Hold up. Your sister had to leave work because her husband kicked you out… even though he was literally right there for the kids. Her husband is utterly useless and she needs a reality check. Me, personally, if I showed up just to find out the husband was there but didn’t want to “babysit” his kids I would have turned right back around. That’s not an emergency, that’s enabling. Try not to be too mad at your mom or sister. They’re locked in the trap that many women find themselves in... trying to make untenable circumstances work. Hopefully, your sister will divorce him. Deep down she has to know you’re right, but is too busy trying to keep everything together. People like him are the reasons men have such a bad name when it comes to parenting. He was right there in the house and he was just gaming. That is so infuriating to read that he considers watching his kids to be considered babysitting. Your sister sucks too. She decided to burden you with unnecessary babysitting duties. She didn't stand up for you when you did her family a favor. You snapped only after her partner rudely barked orders at you. You were completely right in what you said and he kicked you out. People might make the case that she's being abused but it honestly sounds like she's just crappy. If she was at all sorry for how you were treated and wasn't trying to use her children as a bargaining chip, I might feel differently. Stick with your dad on this one. They’ll want you back in their lives when they need free babysitting again. I wouldn’t apologize, it only reinforces the belief that he did nothing wrong and is able to get away with being an absent father. Why your sister puts up with that is beyond me. Don’t give her a reason to believe what she is tolerating is normal as who know what he says at home. When you are a parent, you are on duty 24/7. You don’t get days off. The real question at hand is whether or not her sister will come around (and be able to safely leave that man). If you have a problem you want my opinion email me at thepeverettphile@gmail.com. 


On Constitutional amendments...

Now from the home office in Port Jefferson, New York here is...


Top Phive Things Said About The New Emojis
5. I just saw the pregnant man emoji and can’t stop thinking about how technology was a mistake. 
4. They've created this new emoji to indicate a "pregnant man," but I'm just gonna use it whenever I eat too much. 
3. The pregnant man emoji will be used .0001% of the time to describe a “pregnant trans man’ and 99.9999% by straight dudes talking about the huge burrito they just ate.
2. Trans men exist, you willfully ignorantg assholes. We can and do get pregnant sometimes. 
And the number one thing said about the new emojis is...
1. Imaging fearing for your grandchildren's future because of a pregnant man emoji and not because of climate change. 




If you spot the Mindphuck let me know. Okay, let's take a live look at Port Jefferson, shall we?


Looks like a nice day there today and the ferry is just leaving. 


The 154th book to be pheatured in the Phile's Book Club is...


Sharon will be a guest on the Phile in a few weeks. 


Today's guests are two members of the Canadian indie rock band Rheostatics whose latest album "Here Come the Wolves" is available on iTunes, Amazon and Spotify. Please welcome to the Phile... Dave Bidini and Dave Clark from Rheostatics. 


Me: Hey, guys, welcome to the Phile. How are you? 

Dave B.: Thank you. It's great to be here. 

Dave C.: Thank you, Mr. Peverett. I'm dandy. 

Me: Nice. I'm glad. So, Mr. Clark, what made you guys get back together and record this album after all these years? 

Dave B.: Do you want to answer it? 

Me: What? 

Dave C.: No, I got it. These lovely cats who I'm playing with our bestie Don Kerr on the drums. Donny got some great gigs. They pay way better, right, Don? These guys called me up and called me up and actually it was Dave B., also known as Dave Bidini also known as Bidini also known as Dutch Casino he called me up and said, "Hey, do you want to come up and play a show?" And I just came out of heart surgery and I went "yep." 

Me: You came out of heart surgery and you wanted to play? I had minor heart surgery, putting a loop monitor in a few years ago and that's the last thing I would do is play a concert... if I did concerts. 

Dave C.: Yeah, I was recovering and they trusted I would not fall over on the drum set and we got together and it was like a good ole cup of coffee. It's always like like. Over the years when I found a chance to step in for a song or two that chemistry just doesn't go away and there's certain people I have that in my life and there's certain people I'm not going to. Despite the odds of these things happening history has stuck over the years since for me since I was 14. 

Me: Is that when you first met each other? 

Dave B.: Yeah, I first met Dave when he was 14 and I was 17 and that was the Long Haul days. We played together for like so long and then took a little break. Basically we were waiting for Dave to have heart surgery before we asked to him to come back in the band. It happens. 

Me: Dave C., that's a reason to keep living, am I right? 

Dave C.: Well, I'm breathing. 

Me: What was it like when you guys got back together? 

Dave B.: It was great. We played with Don Kerr and Michael Wojewoda played drums with us over the course of time and this year is 40 years since our first show at the Edge in 1980. 

Me: You guys were teenagers then, right? 

Dave B.: Yeah, totally. 

Me: Were you older enough to play in venues? 

Dave B.: No, we needed special permits. We would apply to the Liquor Control Board in Ontario and they would give us a slip so we could go and play in licenced venues and stuff. 

Dave C.: Dave's dad Fred was our official guardian. He had to come to the gigs so we could be near booze and music. 

Me: Did you feel any pressure from getting back together from the fans? 

Dave B.: No, not really. We're devoted to our fan base because the first few times we toured Canada we wouldn't have survived those tours if it wasn't for the fans. It's true. And I think maybe their devoted to us for that reason possibly. And so we feel a great bond and that is sort of one of the great things about playing again, people do get excited. So that's great. 

Me: The title track is called "Here Comes the Wolves" and is said to be a protest song. What does a protest song mean to you? 

Dave B.: Let's just call it a political song. I think they come in a lot of different forms. The drums beat is inspired by A Tribe Called Red, I saw them in Stockholm, Sweden. Me and Dave spent a good session just crafting that drum part making it sound powerful and elemental and true. 

Me: So, who are the wolves? 

Dave B.: You know, the metaphor of wolves in our lives. Some wolves are more ethereal than others, some are political forces. Some are wolves that we oppose upon ourselves. There are emotional wolves. It's just a reminder that there are wolves everywhere and try to do our best to keep them at bay, to be who we are. 

Me: How did this wolf thing come to mind? It's actually really smart. 

Dave B.: We were floating the idea around of getting some people together to talk about Hamilton music. I was reaching out to folk singers and finding out some people are having hard time with their health, a person is not around and she wolves were circling in arms about thinking about our creative mortality. 

Me: I have no idea what that means. That sounds very deep, am I right? 

Dave B.: We get a little bit older and move on with our musical lives. We do have to fight, especially in Canada too, as a strange independent and we have to keep running and keep working to continue to do the thing that we love. There's always wolves around us to tempting us to bring us to other places to compromise and move to places we are not comfortable. We have to be true to ourselves but I think the older we get the more we have to fight to make sure our vote is resonate in the times. And we live in a society and a culture that tried to surpress unique individual voices and alternative and stranger approaches to art and part of our job as Canadian musicians right from the beginning is to kind of crack that apart and blow that up so there is room for wild voices, there is room for new voices, there is a room for voices and musicians that do it little bit differently. So that's a celebration partly in that song, of that ideology. 

Me: That's cool, and I think I get it. Dave C., what do you think? 

Dave C.: I think he nailed it. That's a good thing you got it right. Dave, the script I sent you to read you copied it impeccably. 

Me: So, what's the deal with the song "Goodbye Sister Butterfly"?

Dave B.: It was inspired by a dream. 

Me: My first novel was inspired by a dream. What was the dream about? 

Dave B.: Well, Kevin Hearn who plays with us as well, who you have interviewed, who is a wonderful musician, he and Gord Downie had this text, well friendship. But they were texting each other I think it was Gord would call Kevin "Flapjack" and Kevin would call Gord "Snowman." I had a dream that Gord came to me and told me to call him "Sister Butterfly." So after Gord passed away I wanted to write something that sort of honoured him and Gord loved the Bee Gees so I thought I would try to write a song like the Bee Gees. But the song doesn't sort of sound like the Bee Gees. There's a part of it that's sort of disco-fied but that song is about Gord. 

Me: I had Dan Ackroyd on the Phile a while ago and he talked highly of Gord Downie. Did any of you play with Gord? 

Dave C.: I played in his solo band Country Of Miracles. 

Me: What did you think of incorporating Gord in this new album? 

Dave C.: I felt it was straight from the heart of the matter. It made complete sense when Dave told me what the subject of what that song is about. I kind of feel that the friendship that we all had with Gord, the guys when they toured after I left with the Hip and myself it was so funny. The guys toured as the Rheostatics with the Hip and I played in his band and toured with him all over the joint. That thread coming through is really, really beautiful for me. To be frank I have a difficult time talking about Gord without crying. So I'm not going to talk about him anymore. 

Me: Dave, you're welcome to cry. I cry when I think of my dad sometimes. You have a song on the album, the first song actually called "Vancouver." Why that place? 

Dave B.: We travel so much with the music and can't help be impacted by it. We write about where we go and this is a place we go to most. 

Dave C.: We have friends waiting everywhere in Canada. It's magical. 

Dave B.: There's always a new place to go in Canada, that's one of the exceptional things about that country. In our life time we would never know it because it's so vast. But one of the good things about being a musician is being able to get to those places that people who don't travel a lot there's always a festival and a town that we never heard of before. There's always somebody who is putting on a concert in their back yard. There's always new places to go. I've always said if I could find a musician in whatever town in the world that I happen to be in then I'm going to be okay. For the most part we take care of each other, we try to. 

Dave C.: Yeah, its really fun because we definitely get a high speed passport where the freaks are and I mean that in the most positive way. You maybe eating chili with someone playing the accordion and the kazoo at four in the morning who is feeling you about the book that they're writing about Dachshunds. That's really fun. 

Dave B.: I'd buy that book. 

Dave C.: I don't mean to be too pushy but I want to say on behalf of the band thanks to everybody whose ever thought about the band, bought anything of ours, come to a show, played a song, showed their good will to us in any sort of way and no small part thanks to the Peverett Phile who is doing this interview. Thank you. 

Me: Thanks. So, did you think 40 years ago that you would still be doing this? 

Dave C.: Yep. I knew I wanted to be three things when I was 6-years-old. I wanted to be Bobby Orr, Prime Minister and a drummer. I played hockey until I got into a fight as a teenager and realized music was way more fun and easier. I'm a politically engaged person, I do not have the hair line to be a Prime Minister. 

Dave B.: Your hair line is pretty good. And you can still be Prime Minister. 

Dave C.: I'm working at it. 

Dave B.: Save it for your 60s. The job may be open one day. 

Dave C.: Listen, I wanted to do this until I dropped dead. I lucked out and living the dream because the kindness of the people around me and the luck of the universe. 

Me: Thanks so much for being on the Phile, guys. 

Dave B.: Thank you. 

Dave C.: Definitely. You rock, Jason.






That about does it for this entry of the Phile. Thanks to the two Dave's for a cool and fun interview. The Phile will be back on Monday with Speech. Spread the word not the turd. Don't let snakes and alligators bite you. Bye, love you, bye.






























Give me some rope, tie me to dream, give me the hope to run out of steam, somebody said it could be here. We could be roped up, tied up, dead in a year. I can't count the reasons I should stay. One by one they all just fade away...

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